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MY BEACH MUST HAVE- Trip to Jersey Shore!

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Hello everyone!

Sunny morning, head full of ideas: Where should I go today?! Sometimes I think 24 hours is too less! Having free weekend I always want to do maximum many things I can. This time my destination was- Long Branch Beach- New Jersey Shore:)

beach must have of femi-coach livestyle trip to jersey shore long branch new jersey

I woke up really early, something about 6.30 to prepare myself to the trip. What do we need? Here are my ideas if you go by car. I wanted to present for you the “MUST HAVE” from my experience going to the beach during whole summer time:)

beach must have of femi-coach livestyle trip to jersey shore long branch new jersey

I went with my husband together, so he helped me carrying all this stuff:) (Of course I would not take so many things if I go on my own! That would be little crazy! Umbrella, refrigirator and, and, and….)

So, we took sunblocker cream, towel, a lot of cold water in little refrigirator, white cap, some clothes in case of wind or sunburn, wet wipes, snacks as chopped fruits in boxes, sunglasses, something to read, hawaians, sun umbrella, camera, some cash for entrance fee, dinner and souvenirs and small bag in which I carry money and camera close to me.

beach must have of femi-coach livestyle trip to jersey shore long branch new jersey

Why do I find this place special? Because there is everything what I expect from a weekend trip. It is safe, clear and the Resort of Long Branch offers to its clients a lot. I advice to have a small bag if you plan to walk along the beach and have a dinner. You do not have to worry about things you leave on the blanket because it is a really safe place. I was amazed of sea food around the beach.

beach must have of femi-coach livestyle trip to jersey shore long branch new jersey

Everyone  can find something here. Drink Bars with music, Snacks, nice beach clothes of good quality, hotels, SPA, family- friendly areas and water sports. I do love this place also for clear water, wide beach and possibilities of spending here time, which Long Branch offers.

beach must have of femi-coach livestyle trip to jersey shore long branch new jersey

beach must have of femi-coach livestyle trip to jersey shore long branch new jersey

I am considering which beach of New Jersey is your favourite? Any ideas for the comming weekend?:)

Have fun!

Your Femi-Coach

 

 

“I don’t like myself”. How to change it?

Sometimes we have this kind of feeling “I am not good enough”, “I am not lucky”. We usually put blame on environment or destiny, which – in our opinion – control our life. Let’s stop for a while and invest time to make friends with a very important person in your life. Yourself. 

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Considering the fact, that every human has different experiences, expectations and perception of the world – one thing is common. The heart of the issue of missing self-acceptance, is not only the way you are treated by others, but foremost, how you treat yourself. Self-acceptance is a long process but incredibly worth of effort.

Start from yourself 

Making excuses is one of the easiest way to discontinue our activities. How many times thoughts like “it doesn’t make sense”, “it is impossible to change myself” manipulated your choices and led you to surrender? By nature we try to simplify our life making seemingly safe decisions by choosing excuses. We forget about the fact that destiny is in our hands. In March 2014 the psychologists from University of Hertfordshire conducted a survey about happiness proving that habit which corresponded most closely with being happy with overall life is self-acceptance.*

Find your advantages and right people 

Take a piece of paper and start writing about the things you like about yourself. The second step is to write about your achievements, yes, these little ones too. It will open your mind for positive emotions. In admission, if you want to develop the list of your advantages and need some external motivation in the beginning – ask your friend for creating the list of things, they like in your personality with explanations or let them describe common positive experiences you both had. Discuss together and hang both lists in a place where you spend most of your time.

Act in the circle of impact 

Try to think about the things, that you want to change; improving qualifications, loosing weight etc. Additionally, you can find issues that interfere with your happiness. At first, make decisions in the area where you have influence. It will build your self-esteem step by step.

Treat yourself good 

What does it really mean? My father always reminds me that for people thankfulness comes hard. At the end of the day you can try to write down about two or three things that you are gratefulf to yourself for. Thank yourself for the “good things” you have done from your perspective. Approximately after a month you will collect about 50 positive thoughts! Be aware of the fact, that everyone makes mistakes, but sometimes take the liberty to do so. Nobody is perfect.

Do not compare yourself to others 

Avoid comparisons. Treat yourself special. Noone has the same talent, color of iris, bodyshape, memories or achievements.  He or she will never be you. On the contrary – someone can can envy  things, which you are not aware of. Do not waste your time thinking about someone’s else life. Use your potential, chances and abilities.

Create dreams and set goals 

Having a purpose in life motivates incredibly, especially if it is based on your dreams.  They do come true if you believe in their fulfilment and carry out some effort. Set small and approachable goals in the beginning. You will feel more confident, because independence, regularity and consistency influence our self-esteem.

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Failure is not a failure 

Remove word “failure” from your dictionary. Substitute it with “lesson”. Our brain “listens” to the words we say. By using positive sounding words you will put youself in a positive attitude.

The fact is, I don’t do everything right all the time, but that doesn’t affect who I am. I know I’m loved and that I’m still a good person. I’ve made mistakes in my life—and I’m sure I’ll make mistakes in the future—but I still like myself. Joyce Meyer 

Control inner monolog 

Critical voices telling you to give up steer your whole mind. Most of people are not aware, how important role it plays in making every day decisions. It may motivate you, or bring you down – depends on what they tell you. Start to follow your thoughts and replace the negative with positive. To excercise – you can write all the negative thoughts you have heard. It is good to write them instantly to safe them from oblivion. Read them aloud, then cross them out to make your brain forget them visually. Analyse every thought, asking yourself in form of self coaching: “why did I think this way?” It will help you find the problem, that may stop you from making right conscious decisions and being happy.

To sum up – treat yourself well. Follow your needs, listen to yourself and create your new, brighter reality. Open yourself for new emotions and conscious happy life.

Femi Coach

*https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2014/03/140307111016.htm

 

What is my blog about?

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Hi 🙂 I am Nina and I live in New Jersey. My profession is human resources management. I studied psychology to help women finding their way of happiness, building self-esteem and exploring hidden potential and beauty.  I do not want to impose my will on anybody, because every human defines happiness different. I want to give inspirations and build relationships with women creating a new, more approachable form of life coaching blog, where you can feel like chatting over  good coffee with a friend! I want to present two forms of posts. You can find here psychological content for your mind, and fashion , beauty and lifestyle inspirations for the eye. Do not hesitate to talk and ask.

 

This blog’s motto is:

 

Every woman is beautiful, but not every woman is conscious.

 

Let me change that perception! Let us achieve Positive Change together!

Your

Femi Coach